Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Life in Earthly Paradise---

Warning
*** Read it at your own risk, the Blog can get really boring!
*** Its just some life experiences and no high intentioned meanings, take away or gyans!
*** It’s a tribute to all those who have made my life beautiful while I know this blog is just not a substitute to feel grateful.
*** Thoughts don’t emerge in order, the flow of writing may not be logical.

There are some memories that cannot be described in words, some that are too trivial to waste words for, some that are too precious to be put to words and some that are so limitless that they cannot be bound by words.

Memoirs from College Days quiet seem to qualify for all these types. Just 3 hours in the College campus had all the memories gushing back with tremendous force. Hitting hard on life’s experiences in the past!
Memories which are invaluable to those which are worthless filled the space, while I enjoyed every bit of Kalayani ( Raga) as it evolved from the singer, so did the past ,once in glory!

As a student I dreaded going to college, the Graduation program. As a reader you might think that “I must be insane to have disliked College Days”, whatever you may want to think, this was a nightmarish phases for me not till I met the eight most beautiful souls. For all I am today I owe due credits to them for making that phase of my life sail smooth through the turbulent waters.

For some strange reason, I opted to pursue pure science (Don’t ask me why, for I don’t know the answer). The very first week in the course I realized the blunder which for no reason at that point could be undone.

The only familiarity at this point to me was the college itself from my stay in past years , its strong grey walls, the sturdy wooden benches while all faced the black board exclusive two benches faced the either sides towards the right or left depending on the class room alignment ( I am not too certain if this tradition of side benches still décor the class rooms in the college),the corridor -in which I had stood barely few months backs flipping through the pages of the text in a vain attempt towards the final preparations either for the lab test or board exams were the only familiar things except a few known faces of college staff.
While the entire janta proceeded either to covet the famous Engineering Degree or Doctors’ I stayed back with hardly any motivation to move on.
The moments only taught me the true meaning and feeling of failure despite clearing the board papers with fairly good grades!
The only solace was the good afternoon siesta which I could get after the classes closed at 12:30 pm.

While few known faces now were my final resort to kill the loneliness which lingered right from the day the course began. The once known faces are now a part life anchoring the bonds of friendship to what it truly means.
They were not from the same class as mine, nor were they from the same department, they were cradled in a completely different streams, came in from a different interest group with different career objective still something clearly bound us together and then started the journey for life time, the winds of north finally changed its direction, for the life became more vibrant, more lively. As they welcomed me to the nest which was built on sheer happiness, fun and love.

Time now seemed to move at a fast pace for me, as I now recall the good old days while each of us would stand by the other in a group, chit chat our heart, while we named every other person in the college be it seniors, juniors, classmates with none to spare from weirdest of names we named for our very own identification purpose from Intro to patch up , from Coffee pudi to Jeans from Sonu to kid namkarana (Naming Ceremony)became part and parcel of our group activity while each one would try to get as creative and logical with the name we could get.
This did not stop just to name others we went a little beyond to name our own would-be families it topped with Nana, nina, avana, ivana and so went on the list of our naming gimmicks.

Each class break would only mean dash to the nearest class just to catch up on the quick talks. The long breaks were always welcome while we shared the breakfast which the mothers would earnestly cook religiously every morning, while we ate the assortment of food from each dabba and shared jokes and each persons days must share tales, time would surpass the allotted hour while each of us dashed to be just in time for the attendance call in our respective class, or just in time before the Prof. came in and closed the door barring entry to the late comers.
Energy levels would be high over the Wall journals with creativity flowing from all the ignited minds in the making of “Minds Eye”.

Bunking class was another classic activity for us. As I managed to bunk the Physics or Math’s lecture with differentiation and integration sounding absolute gibberish to me, while I made it a point to attend Psychology or Journalism during those hours just to have some class room fun. These Prof’s had actually assumed that I belonged to their department and how baffled they were to realize one day I was actually from a totally alien department!

The girls would unanimously choose to bunk any hour if I had a free hour or I would bunk just to stay with them during their free hour.

Everyday routine of dashing to chitra’s house waking her up at 7:00 am and hurriedly carrying ourselves at super jet speed to cover distance of 1 km in record time of 7 mins just to be in time for the first hour class at 7:30 is something I wonder to this day, on the level of commitment we had, to get up at that earthly hour and rush to college religiously.

Our balcony sightings - excitements created post sighting the popular people in the quadrangle would just add on to fun while I raised both my hands in appreciation and the rest of them keenly followed the moments of the wanna bees.

The excitement in getting to know the true/actual name of people and how enthusiastic we would be to announce the actual name of the person in the quick talk breaks is something nostalgic. (I can still vividly remember how I was introduced to one of my fellow seniors whom the girls had named and the moment I got some news how eager I was to share that with the girls and the speed at which I had dashed out while a totally different surprise was in store as the girls gave in the name before even I could open my mouth)

Our walks to our very own adda which we named SL while we sat on the katte and spoke tales and shared stories around the world. Many of the life meaningful experiences seemed to evolve then- In short the Gyan sessions!

Our short walks to the Heritage before we all departed for the day, as we gobbled a samosa or managed to lay the hands to tempting brownies or least if the month end was round the corner all we could afford were the Bowring Kulfis and the chillness which it would be shared rest of the girls as each one of us called out “taste maddae!”.

As the girls spoke of Freud, or discussed Tempest and enlightened me on Child Psychology to Educational Psychology while sharing the concept of cognitive behaviors virtually prepared me to be their subject of study for practical exam.
Little tit bits I shared with them were only related to Astro physics and nothing beyond it for they felt no need to know how the earth revolved in orbit, their only statement was “As long as its in orbit we don’t have to worry, let it mind its job” would always fascinate me at the level of coolness each one had.

The way Chits and me would wake up every year-end with realization on the existence of an entity called library only get our NOC’s from the librarian to pay the our exam fee is something which still intrigues me at the level of indifference we carried for the entity all along our stay in college!

The way my senior friend would try hard to motivate me to study. He would insist I prove those dreadful theorems, he would sit there with a Math text coaching me on how to apply those dreadful theorems while teaching me the shortcuts to arrive at the solution and my playful nature to just gossip with all around while he solved all my problems, later with a realization on the worldly happenings encompassed with all irritation he would yell “You can look at guys later, you have your whole life for that! Now will you please concentrate here?” and me being me would combat the harsh statements and yell back saying I was not too keen to learn.
Apologizing and realizing my nature and reason for those spontaneous outbursts, he would try to motivate and cajole me saying I really had the potential in me but had no drive and If I did put in a little hard work I would go places in my career and alas all these motivation would finally fall on dead ears!

The time for record submission, the way I would stealthily approach my friend and ask if I could borrow his previous years records just for reference purpose and he realizing the underlying intention would give it to me after some good amount of persuation , with a familiar statement for the next two years being “ Don’t copy the values, you will not get the correct output in the exam if you copy them, just keep it as a reference only” with immediate reply being, I wish you had not submitted , I would have used the same copy and saved my self 2 hrs of laborious writing every week! Invariably both of us would crackle with the roars of laughter!

Memories are now flowing like a river of thoughts.
The way chits and Anu had pulled me out from Physics lab with a strange reason that I was a key member in the Psychology fest Transcend this incident left my prof with perplexed emotion on the role of a physics student in the psychology festival.

Our adventures in rain also have left with other fellow students with baffled looks, the MTR Ice cream in Cee-gees is what I still remember to this date. Competition between Anu and Chits on highest number of Ice cream which they could gulp in the rain is something which still lingers down the memory lane.

Our sudden outburst of excitement to watch some Hindi hip hop movies and our only resort being either the Abhinay Theater or Cauvery theater which played movies exclusively for the our college tailored timings @10:30 am and how we would sneak out of the college building and feel safe inside the movie hall while we commented and critiqued the movie in and out and later come back to adda just to sit on the katte and continue our tales.

The fast approaching exams only meant heaps and heaps of photocopies the girls had to make to prepare themselves for the exams, while I was saved this trouble of photocopying, I grappled with all the theorems in analytical geometry and tried to mug the Fourier theorem trying to relate how I could use all of them in the future and the very thought would send chill vibes to the spine on the complexity of usage of baseless theorems in my life!
I am very grateful and happy that I really haven’t used a single theorem for application in the last 8 yrs.

Memories like these can bring in a tear or two with a fragile smile. I fail to understand the frequency of thoughts connected to multiple variables like smiles, tears and goads of emotion. There seems to be multiple effects from just these passing thoughts …..
For all those who have managed to read till this line. “ With a bow Thank you very much, you really have high patience levels”
Special Thanks to all those people who have been a part of this life to have tailored these blissful moments in my life.
VSCAN-K - Jai Ho!

Sunday, April 12, 2009

The Day- It was!

Birthdays are meant to feel special, pampered and above all celebrate with grandeur. This year’s birthday had all these fragments neatly intertwined in a day! ( I thank god for all the good things I have)

As a young girl, I would always look forward for the month of April for it always meant beginning of summer vacations! No School, No studies, No home work but only 2 full months of fun and frolic.

Nestled in the month of April is the day for which I would make big plans as child, young girl and now a lady, for It is time to celebrate and mark the presence of yet another passed year on the homely planet!.

The D- Day usually started with a warm hug from my sister and wishing from all my uncles and aunts in the family.

As a little child I wore the most prettiest dress which amma would carefully pick for the occasion and I would also decide the dress which I would wear to the temple, at home and for the party in the evening.

If somebody walked past the home in the early morning hours of the D- day, they would surely realize that celebrations in the family was round the corner for aroma from specially prepared mysore pak with lots of ghee, sugar and love would attract everyone right from the Tharkari amma ( Vegetable vendor) to helper at home. They would eagerly wish me with love and care for the little girl growing up in the neighbourhood. With the most brilliant smile I would reply" Thank you" while I adored the dress and showed them the intricate lace work or embroidery on the frocks and skirts they would delicately feel the lace work with nervous hands not to dirty the priced possession of the child!

The day would be packed with excitement right from visiting the temple, seeking the blessing of the almighty& elders, distributing the chocolates & sweets specially prepared for the occasion by amma, inviting extended family members to join the dinner party @ night, chatting with cousins and jabbering unlimitedly with friends on the phone always assured a sense of warmth and feeling of belonging. I secretly smiled in the heart of hearts for all the care they showered .

I would crash for a siesta with a great longing for the evening to arrive.

Before even I could realize it would be time to feel like a princess. Dressed in the best attires with amma's permission and direction I would step out to invite kids in the neighbourhood for the party @ 7.

While I felt like a princess, frisked and danced the whole day, amma would be busy in the kitchen preparing the mouth watering delicacies for the evening. While I always had a condition that every delicacy be different from the previous year, amma would have a tough time comprehending to these demands, she would convince me on some and agreed on the rest ensuring that they are the best and her guests always left a remark for such a good meal.

Appa would come early from work just to be in time for the party while he carried home the fresh cream cake from Nilgiris which I would long for, always keen to know the shape of the cake ,how it looked, the colour of it and number of cherries and gems it was adored with ! He would advise me to stay away. I cherish these moments, a total bliss in itself.

As the clock ticked 7, the air would be filled with bursting of balloons, screeching for whistles and Birthday song, every time somebody in the choir would miss a line and the whole bunch of kids would crackle with laughter!

Gifts were given and taken with gratitude. With utmost curiosity all the kids would sit around the gifts and me being the proud owner would command which gift to be opened next with the curiosity of what the pack contained. While I played LIDO, Snake and Ladder and more games with the family and friends it would be time for curtains down on the day!

..........and Days have passed by and now for random thoughts flashes yet again… For there are such beautiful and blissful memories I can cherish for all through my life, live the childhood every single day and every moment is special .

This birthday rekindled all these lovely memories from my childhood, with a feeling of being special, showered with love and care, I think back on all the happiness that is around and how as mortals we seem to miss these little sacred fragments of happiness in search of the "Unknown..........."

A note before you leave this page.

Enjoy everyday for it is blissful in its own way! Lets try to appreciate little happiness and thank all those who make a difference to add to this happiness.

A big "Thank You" to all of you who have been a reason behind this happiness in my life and for making it vibrant and blissful!




Thursday, March 12, 2009

A Tribute To God's Master Peice!

She came to the world with utmost innocence spreading the moments of joy for everyone around. The cribs latent in most Indian families with the mercy of the almighty was away. Compassion and love were the only two things evident to her being. As she grew in her father’s love, mother’s care, sister’s concern, brother’s security moments of laughter and bliss filled her life. She grew into a little girl transformed into a beautiful lady. Success touched her with its wand. As the days passed she turned into an individual with strong individuality. High sense of Independence and freedom were evident. The being was gifted with abundant happiness and bliss; though the hidden fear was evident she shared them with none.

A day dawned when the prince charming took her to different world all together.

She left behind her self for the sense of the young man and his new world. Ensured she played her role well, a role of courteous wife, role of a respecting daughter in law, role of good co sister, role of compassionate mother, role of a humble neighbor, role of a friend. In all these roles were the hidden feelings of the true being! Her true self never expressed or exposed to the new world.

Little did people realize she is an individual, too full of dreams just the way they had, a person who had left behind herself for the roles she was to play, a person who is unconditionally loved by parents, friends, near and dear ones, just as they were!

Mediocrity was very evident in her new world. With self centered beings just there to seek the attention of the world and point the imperfectness through the nose! Even with this she never complained, never mentioned her thoughts, just smiled and moved on!

She had heart full of emotions, she was told never to showcase to the world. For the world would never appreciate it! She carried with her all through her goodness, humbleness and kindness. Little were these appreciated, but she cared for none and played her role.

World woke up one day to realize the godliness of this true being! Was it too late?

No it is never too late to pay tribute to god’s creation of this wonderful human being! As I pay my tribute to god creation of the master piece- “ The Woman” I take the privilege to quote what the veda’s has to say about this being!

Karyeshu mantri,

Karuneshu dasi,

Roopeshu Lakshmi,

Kshameshu dharitri,

Sneheshu matha,

Shayaneshu Rambha,

Shatkarma nari,

Kuladharma pathni

A complete being with totality! I bow to the almighty for this wonderful creation. An embodiment of love,compassion,peace and natural divine instincts!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Experience With The University!

February started with a loud bang… As the hectic week started with PLP workshop, It gave me a break from the monotony of home office home and role reversed to Home –Resort –Home, as the mid week approached I started feeling sick of the food in the resort. As I yearned for amma’s curd rice and pickles , uppma, and rasam the week had already passed and I was back in the week-end den.

Cultural difference within the country cannot be more evident in this context then other. My friend being a Chinese, raised in North India with education from South qualifies herself to be epitome of cultural understanding.
As my friend called in and asked if I could accompany her for the University for Official Transcripts, I readily agreed to ease the language complexities which people face with the government bodies.
As we approached the university campus we were greeted by a guard who guided us to “The Stone Building” what they called. It read “Student Grievance Center”, the first thought that struck me on seeing the interiors of the office only reminded me the old movies which portrayed central jail in all glory. Coming back to senses and reminding my self I was in India’s Reputed University and not any central Jail was a reliving enough. As I scanned the place to check on the formalities and procedure I was lured to more confusing thoughts. Except a print copy pasted on a wooden separator ( which acted as a separating wall from one division to other) on the cost for various applications with hardly enough information was visible. To get a better understanding we approached the person with a grim face (it appeared to me as though I was taking the grievance). Thus began the conversation in the native language.
The jist of the entire conversation was I wanted to know more details on the process for filling an application for the official transcripts. While the representative just asked me to pay 180 RS per required transcripts in the Bank at the other corner of the road without sharing no further details in spite of using the probing technique in interviews!

As both me and my friend dashed just to be in time before the bank closed for transaction little did we realize we had to walk close to 1 km to reach the bank. As the February sun soared high up as the temperatures raised, my patience level dripped every step I took

The only conversation that filled the air between us was how backward we still are in the current era which dominates the software’s and applications. We were dazed that there is not a single web application format in the university website. Our conversations revolved on how bureaucratic we still are as a society.

As we reached the bank filled the formalities of manual transactions of which we have almost lost the ground on when the banks have opted for core banking and Internet and mobile banking is now the trend and style. We doodled a bit on the challan and submitted the copies while depositing the cash in the counter.
As we tracked our way back to the Stone Building, I was just wondering what more the day could have in store.
Then the Rep gave me a familiar smile this time, only that I had a curt smile to return back for having made me walk 2 kms in the treacherous sun!
As we submitted the challan we were asked to produce the photocopies of mark sheet with one set in a paper cover which we were advise to carry from some acquaintance . It was then our representative sparked out that one had to attach even the copy of degree certificate.

As I rushed to get the certificate photocopied checking with the students where the photocopy center was I was baffled to know that I had to go to some court complex for photocopies. As I walked past the vendors on the lane, selling groundnuts, mints and bananas, I was only wondering if I were in a University Campus or just another government organization. University without a Photo copy center was beyond me ability of imagination! As I conjectured the state and plight of the students around the area a sense of pity struck to those gullible.

I hurried my way past back to the Stone building just be in time before our officials took their long earned break for lunch. We worked our way together to put the copies in the covers and as my friend submitted the Challan copies and cover containing the most treasured mark sheets and Degree Certificate for the day, the good old representative shot back “ Where is the application form?” both of us were stunned for a moment with no words flowing and as our empty stomach made noise for resources to be supplied to all the back up energy were being utilized in running up and down the university lane! Rather quizzed by the question we exchanged perplexed stares at each other. Now this was the limit of my patience zone it had long crossed the negative line of control! With all temper I shot back “ Now what is this application about? Will you please let me know” Slowly but steadily the rep replied “you need to fill in an application and get it stamped and signed by your college authorities!” and beyond this not a word was said!
While I pondered over how else I could get the situation under control as the clock ticked close to 1:00 pm, I hastily took the application and helped my friend fill it, we dashed back to her college hoping that the Admin office would still be open. Thankfully for the security guards eye we still looked like young college girls, as we barged in to the Admin area we managed to get the application stamped and signed. We stopped on our way back for lunch discussions backtracked to all the events of the day.

We finally managed to submit the request for official transcripts for B.com while we have one more pending for the Master program which we target to complete early March.

There are far too many questions that hit my thoughts. We are supposed to the second largest country in terms of population and contribute to largest pool of IT and ITES operations. Infact Bangalore is called the silicon valley of India. I am perplexed at the rate at which our basic infrastructures and process are in place. In this experience of mine, the renowned university does not even have an option in there website where such basic transactions can be easily automated with little effort. We still run the grumpy grievance cells manned by people who assume the roles of gods’ moment they have a visitor, forgetting all basics of customer services approach. There is hardly any mention of various processes for such transactional operations for student in the website or any clear guidelines in the office;
We are on close standards for producing the best in class engineers with high talent output ratio, we talk a lot about core banking operations, still we stand in the long queues just to fill a challan. Do the agencies and institutions even realize that the coming generations are going to be highly tech savvy, those student which the university themselves has produced with high standard of education, to which they would cater to? When India is on high agenda for the next milestone to be crossed, add yet another feather to its culturally diverse hat. Our universities are still surviving in the era of last century of dark, dumpy grievance cells while the world itself has moved to another continuum of technology bound by the immensity of speed and time.
India no doubt is making its presence felt in this era of globalization but these ground realities do strike hard!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

The Journey.........

She pushed opened the majestic doors of the auditorium, there he saw her for the first time while he stood in the corner of the hallway with the group of boys. There was an instant flash in his heart and hit him hard enough. With all the chaos pervading he could barely concentrate on the talks and conversations, which was on. She scanned the auditorium with eyes, which spoke nothing but innocence; she looked around to join her group. She found her friends and then she was lost in her world of talks.
As they all waited for the program to begin he could barely lift his gaze of her, her smile, her laughter, her voice, her tone were the only senses which reverberated all through his soul and heart.

The program ended, a friend of hers took her around and then there they met. He was pleased to meet her, while there was a new feeling which shook him and captivated him, little did he express. Surely the cupid had struck!
He came in every morning, he always took the seat beside her, always felt her presence. They spoke of things known and unknown, happenings of the world and beyond ,they met everyday spoke everyday, argued their way as he got to know her better, more deeper the feelings got nurtured .A respect set out for her. Days passed, turned to months imbibed and nurtured the feelings of love, care and respect.
They always argued, agreed on few while they disagreed on many. Many a times egos dominated.
But She always cared for him and trusted, not realizing the inner meaning, she always felt light at heart and comfortable with him being around. Little did she realize! Her friends teased her for always arguing and still being around with him, she cared not.

One fine morning he called her and said he had something to share, as they met in the most unusual and crowded place he confessed his heart to her with heavy breathing and high hope he said " I love you dear". She fluttered like a confused butterfly, she didn’t expect this from him .she said a NO and walked away! They met everyday spoke and more often then not, argued considerably, still he had hopes high, he proposed for next 10,000 time they met and she kept pushing him away. Friends tried to convince she pushed them back; he tried to convince little did she consider.

Her only fear " We always argue, our wavelengths are a mismatch" was one thing she held high. Days rolled now to years and she kept saying no, every time she did, she wept to her heart, which yearned for him, for his care, for the love he showed. She realized it were these arguments and disagreements that had brought them closer to each other, respect follies in each other to accept things the way they are, appreciate difference in thoughts.
He backtracked and left her alone.

They now met once in a while, hardly spoke to one another eventually she now realized how it feels to miss him, his arguments, his love and care, respect, more importantly the way he treasured her.

A day dawned a group of friends set out on a picnic both of them were invited and agreed to join the group.
The journey was not conducive, egos ruled them. Little did they talk, hardly looked at each other still they were seated next to each other felt the presence.
Cool breeze set in, with a ting of warm day light they sat in a group by the side of the river and he confessed yet again in a whisper and she held his hand tight. While he reciprocated with a tighter grip!

Friends applauded and they set out to embark on a new journey in life.

Arguments continued, disagreements continued, still in their hearts they cared for the other, respected other, and yearned for more love! They realized relationships are not built on the moulds of ego but on that of love, care, campanionship and joy of being together and staying together.

This is an attempt to bring series of emotions . An attempt to write a simple short story.

Saturday, January 31, 2009

Search for the lost glory!

Life, it seems is a journey filled with colors bold. I am told without these colors the journey is incomplete.

The journey started with a cry to mark the presence in the world, moments then filled with smiles looking at the stars, wanting to play with the moon, mumbles of unknown words with unidentified meaning while the heart yearned for nothing, with confidence abundant, as the familiarity set of known and unknown the days passed while the moments spread joy around for people, it expected nothing in return.

There were bright sunny days, some cloudy days while a few dull days nothing but the routine set it, heart which once spread happiness, bliss and love; now longer spread these through the presences- it felt!

Deep down in the heart still the moments of bliss is fresh and  confined to the space, while it loves, adores, respects through all these shades of life , it makes every attempt to share the shades with the known, unknown of human race.

It secretly cries while it makes a colossal attempt not to share with the world known the reason for those warm tears, those it is told are not meant to be showcased to the world.

It questions the nature “ Why Me always?” While it seeks a response, it gets none.

Deep down all it yearns is unconditional love and happiness, it cries out aloud to the nature “when I came to your world, I spread happiness, love and bliss, I brought instant smiles on all those charming faces which looked at me, Where has all this gone?”  Can you please return them to me?

With a hope to get lost glory it beats at a normal pace thud-thud-dud-dud...

Friday, January 30, 2009

Random Thoughts

I thought hard today, the harder I thought pleasant things filled the flow of thoughts.

Life-

The Past was beautiful

Present an experience of reality

Future a wonderful dream I would love to experience over and over ………

I am told that angels are not fantasy and they exist in real, they come as a passing cloud spread their charm and elegance and off they disappear. I experienced the charm, you appeared spread the divine message showed me the path of bliss…

I do not know how I met you in this journey of life, nor do I know the why’s! All I know is you appeared like a flash in the starry sky, made this life a beautiful journey to pass, an experience to cherish, taught me the art of hope, filled these eyes with wonderful dreams to accomplish and to see through the world!

You have always been there for me

You respect me, my ideas, my thoughts!

You adore me as an individual

You trust in me and my abilities

You pamper me like a child,

You protect me like a mother

You care for me as a friend

You are my pillar of support, my ray of hope, my confidant.

Life is a complete journey!

The deep-rooted secret “ Angel- Really?” is still unanswered. Yet the experience teaches me not to question the nature! For it is said "all that happens, is for good! ". I now know all that is coming is for good to build a beautiful tomorrow from all those wonderful dreams these eyes have just seen.